Sarah Morgan

Healthcare Geek.
Professional Communicator.


Is “Out” on Its Way Out?

When will we know that gay rights is finally on the downhill part of its battle?

When “coming out” is no longer a Thing. When a gay person doesn’t feel responsible to declare their sexuality like a pricey purchase at Customs. When there doesn’t need to be a holiday devoted to being honest about who you are. When coming out becomes passe.

The Week just did a story on the waning concept of “outing” and I think they’re right that there’s at least progress.. The fact that the occasional celebrity will admit to not being heterosexual is no longer worthy of a magazine cover. We have interviews with award-winning actors mentioning their orientation only in passing, comic-book superhero couples getting married, and finally, finally, some public figures thinking that it might be time to support gay marriage.

But too many middle-schoolers (or those who never left mentally) still call strange things “gay,” too few people think that you could be an athlete or a romantic lead without being heterosexual, and too many gay people have to diplomatically ration what they say about themselves.

Life shouldn’t mean acting like a foreign ambassador in an unfriendly land. It’s hard enough to grow up and come to terms with sexuality, let alone to navigate that while making a public proclamation about it. And your talent shouldn’t have a damn thing to do with who you happen to want to come home to.

I never had to come out. Why should anybody else?



I recently read that Adam Levine became the first openly gay pop star to have a number one song on some pop chart. That’s when I knew out was over.

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